city lights | 📷: [J J](https://www.flickr.com/photos/tattoodjay/3463410211/ "J J on Flickr)
📷: [Maurizio Fecchio](https://www.flickr.com/photos/53359531n04/41805072222/ "Maurizio Fecchio on Flickr)
(post taken from cruxius on tumblr)
Without looking at my bio, guess these things about me based on how you percieve me:
-favorite genre of music
-introverted or extroverted
(you don't have to do all of them!)
(Feel free to reblog!!!)
Romantic Ambivalence Survey
Hi all, here is a survey (not made by me) for "people without romantic orientations, people who identify to any degree with wtfromanticism or quoiromanticism, and people who struggle with the concept of romance, romantic orientation, or romantic attraction."
05.11.19 ✨ coney island, new york
📷: fujifilm x30
I hope all religious LGBT+ folk have a good day and remember that their relationship with their deity/deities is their own and not open to interpretation from intolerant people.
Reminder that the Split Attraction Model, or SAM, is only as useful as far as you can find use in it. It may be helpful to analyse all of your attractions separately, to recognize that they're divergent from each other, that some are more intense than others, etc. It may be helpful to consider all of your attractions as things that blur together, that influence each other, to see them as mostly convergent to the point that they're not separate, etc. Attraction can guide orientation, but it does not equal it. So if you feel that you are attracted, in some way, to a specific group of people, but you can't pinpoint the attraction, it's absolutely fine to not specify it. And if you are attracted to a specific group of people in a very specific way, then it's also absolutely fine to specify. Let the SAM be a tool, not a burden.uncannyaro
Can I just say, 'let the SAM be a tool, not a burden' is the best, most concise piece of advice I have ever heard about the SAM, and I will be using that phrase for always if that's ok with you?
I wish I could participate in food discourse but all my opinions feel so normal to me. Guess that's because it's me and I'm used to it.
Here's a speedrun of various things I can think of:
Happy pride month to the people whose identities have been boiled down to discourse by awful people. Aces, aros, non-dysphoric nb and trans people, pan people, and any others I may have missed. Pride has always been for a variety of people, and you deserve some happiness this month. I’m sorry that discourse has tried to take that from you.pantransautie
I'm sorry that acephobia, arophobia, enbyphobia, transphobia, panphobia, etc. has tried to take that from you.
The best piece of advice I can give new or overwhelmed aspec people? Find your comfort label. It doesn't matter if you're technically a microlabel, if it doesn't sit right with you, it won't work for you.
Want to just call yourself ace and/or aro even tho you might be demi or gray or cupio or any other micro label? Go for it!
Want to use those micro labels because it brings you comfort to have exact words to describe your experiences? Have at it!
Can't find something that suits you? Feel free to coin a new term just for you. Or, alternatively, queer is a good catch all label if you're not looking for that specificity.
Labels describe you, not perscribe you. In other words, pick the ones that you feel fit you, and don't make yourself fit the ones you think you should.